Dear Abbey
He came into my life almost three years ago. He arrived with flowers and chocolates and immediately swept me off my feet. Most importantly for me he dazzled me with intelligent conversation – something that was severely lacking in my previous relationship. That and his confident manner, good looks and healthy appearance made me think that he was the one. I have had many relationships since my last true love in 1980, but none of them ever made me feel the way he did. He would speak so passionately and precisely, always promising that if I stuck with him long term, my future was going to be exciting. He promised to take me to places I had never been before.
The first year was so wonderful. We spent every weekend together and even if the day or night didn’t take me to dizzying heights, I knew that he had made a great effort. The second year, often when my relationships start to break up, was also fantastic. We were still spending day and night together.
But it all started to change last summer. I was worried that we were mixing with the wrong crowd – people that were not honest with themselves, selfish and not committed to the cause. He started telling me things would be alright, but I knew – I just knew he wasn’t telling me the truth. His best friend was also not being level with me.
And then it happened. Just as I thought the day was approaching where we could seal our relationship forever, he told me that he could not commit until 2011. He started saying we were too young, that we needed to mature before we could make the final steps. I’m just not sure I can trust him anymore. Whenever I mention that I think we have a problem and need to discuss it, he just glosses over it by saying he thinks things are alright, that we are headed in the right direction, and that he will change some of the people we mix with [but he never does – he always invites them back] I’m not sure if I can wait around until 2011. I have come across an older man – 60 this year – who has just separated from his love and I must say I am really interested in him. I’m confused. What should I do?
He came into my life almost three years ago. He arrived with flowers and chocolates and immediately swept me off my feet. Most importantly for me he dazzled me with intelligent conversation – something that was severely lacking in my previous relationship. That and his confident manner, good looks and healthy appearance made me think that he was the one. I have had many relationships since my last true love in 1980, but none of them ever made me feel the way he did. He would speak so passionately and precisely, always promising that if I stuck with him long term, my future was going to be exciting. He promised to take me to places I had never been before.
The first year was so wonderful. We spent every weekend together and even if the day or night didn’t take me to dizzying heights, I knew that he had made a great effort. The second year, often when my relationships start to break up, was also fantastic. We were still spending day and night together.
But it all started to change last summer. I was worried that we were mixing with the wrong crowd – people that were not honest with themselves, selfish and not committed to the cause. He started telling me things would be alright, but I knew – I just knew he wasn’t telling me the truth. His best friend was also not being level with me.
And then it happened. Just as I thought the day was approaching where we could seal our relationship forever, he told me that he could not commit until 2011. He started saying we were too young, that we needed to mature before we could make the final steps. I’m just not sure I can trust him anymore. Whenever I mention that I think we have a problem and need to discuss it, he just glosses over it by saying he thinks things are alright, that we are headed in the right direction, and that he will change some of the people we mix with [but he never does – he always invites them back] I’m not sure if I can wait around until 2011. I have come across an older man – 60 this year – who has just separated from his love and I must say I am really interested in him. I’m confused. What should I do?
